Why this appointment feels harder than it should
A standard GP appointment is about ten minutes. In that time you need to summarise a lifetime of difficulties, sound credible while describing problems with organisation and follow-through, and make a specific request. For many people with ADHD that is close to a worst-case scenario, and plenty of people leave without the referral simply because the conversation drifted.
The fix is preparation. Your GP does not diagnose ADHD; a specialist does. The GP's job is to decide whether a referral is appropriate, so your job is to make that decision easy: a clear ask, a short history, and concrete evidence.
The one-sentence version: book the appointment, open by saying you want an ADHD assessment referral, give two or three specific examples of lifelong impact, hand over a completed ASRS screener, and name the pathway you want. Everything below expands that.
Before you book: gather three things
A symptom list with dates and consequences. Not "I am disorganised" but "I have missed three appointments this month, I have been formally warned at work for missed deadlines twice, and this has been a pattern since school". Specific, dated, and tied to consequences. Aim for five to ten examples across work, home, and relationships. If you have been tracking your focus, sleep, and energy day to day, for example in ADHDose, a few weeks of logged patterns is exactly this kind of evidence in documented form.
Childhood evidence if you can find it. ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, so assessors look for signs before age 12. School reports mentioning concentration, daydreaming, calling out, or "could do better if applied" comments are ideal. Not essential for the referral, but worth the loft search.
A completed ASRS. The Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale is a free screening questionnaire developed with the World Health Organization. It takes about five minutes online. It is not a diagnosis, but a printout with a high score gives your GP something concrete to attach to the referral.
The script
State the ask immediately
"I have booked this appointment to ask for a referral for an ADHD assessment. I have had difficulties with focus, organisation, and follow-through for as long as I can remember, and they are significantly affecting my work and home life."
Leading with the ask stops the appointment drifting into a general mental health conversation. You can come back to detail; the GP now knows what decision they are being asked to make.
Anchor it in childhood
"These are not new problems. At school my reports said I was bright but did not concentrate. I have brought a couple of examples. The same pattern has followed me through every job since."
Two sentences is enough. The point is to signal lifelong pattern, which is what separates an ADHD referral from a stress or low mood conversation.
Give your two strongest examples
"In the last six months I have had a written warning for missed deadlines, and I have lost two important documents that cost me money to replace. I spend my evenings catching up on things that should have taken an hour."
Choose examples with consequences a clinician can write down: warnings, debts, missed medication or appointments, relationship strain, driving incidents. Read them from your notes; nobody expects you to perform from memory.
Hand over the evidence and confirm the next step
"I have completed the ASRS screening questionnaire, here it is. Could you confirm you will make the referral, and where it will go?"
Asking where the referral goes matters, because in England you have a choice about that, which is the next section.
If you want Right to Choose, say so by name
In England, you can ask for the referral to go to a specialist provider holding an NHS contract instead of your local service, under the NHS's Right to Choose. Local NHS waits are often years; provider waits are usually months. The figures change monthly, so check our provider wait time comparison before the appointment and pick a provider.
Name the pathway and the provider
"I would like this referral made under NHS Right to Choose, to [provider name]. They hold an NHS contract for ADHD assessment. They provide a referral pack for GPs, and I have brought the link in case it is useful."
The large providers publish GP referral packs and template letters on their websites. Bringing the link, or a printout, removes the most common friction: a GP who has simply never done one before. The full process is in our Right to Choose guide.
If the GP pushes back
"It sounds like stress or anxiety." Acknowledge and redirect: "I understand they can look similar, but these difficulties were present long before any recent stress, going back to childhood. I would like the ADHD assessment to settle the question, and the assessor can also consider anxiety." Anxiety and ADHD commonly co-occur, so one does not rule out the other.
"The waiting list is years long" or "the list is closed." This is the moment for Right to Choose: "That is why I am asking for a Right to Choose referral to a provider with a shorter, open list. It is NHS-funded and the referral process is the same for you."
"We do not do Right to Choose here." Stay polite and factual: "Patient choice at the point of referral is part of the NHS Constitution, and the provider has a standard referral pack for GPs. Could the practice look into it? I am happy to come back." If the practice still refuses, ask for the refusal and its reason to be recorded in your notes, then contact PALS (Patient Advice and Liaison Service) or your ICB's patient experience team.
A flat refusal to refer at all. Ask for the clinical reasoning, request it in your notes, and consider booking with a different GP at the same practice. A second appointment with better-organised evidence succeeds surprisingly often.
After the referral goes in
Note the referral date. Right to Choose providers say first contact can take up to 8 weeks, and they advise chasing your GP if you have heard nothing after about 10. From there you are in the provider's queue; current expectations are covered in our waiting times overview.
Then use the wait. Keep adding to your examples list, and keep tracking your day-to-day patterns. A baseline of focus, sleep, and energy built up while unmedicated does two jobs: it gives the assessor documented real-life evidence, and if you are later prescribed medication it gives you a "before" picture to compare titration against. ADHDose is designed to carry you through both halves: baseline now, medication levels and dose response later.
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